Dark Sentiments 2012 – Day 21: The Price of Leadership
Posted By Randy on October 21, 2012
I’ve written a lot about the strength of character it takes to be worthy of being a Leader of animals. Most particularly Dogs, because Mrs. LFM and I … well, that’s how we roll.
Regardless of species though, if you’ve ever had an animal in your life that gave you a trust you were worthy of, you either have, or will, come to the inevitable point of being strong for them on the day they must return to Nature. These days, most can turn to a veterinarian to administer a lethal injection, but it must never be forgotten that the one who dealt the death is not compartmentalized to the one who pressed the plunger on the syringe. Killing a loved one is a terrible thing to do, and anyone who’s done it when the need is recognized will know that the decision was agonized over long before the day came. That having been said, the responsibility of Leadership is not diluted by delegation. If you are worthy of the role then you will accept the soul searing truth of this, and we’ll drink and cry with you any day as you work though it.
A couple quotes for you from LFM lore –
Any Leader of Dogs worthy of the title understands and accepts the responsibilities that come with fully embracing the beautiful thing that is a relationship with a Dog, and knows going in that the relationship comes with an expiry date – one that, with all likelihood, will lead to their being dragged kicking and screaming into being the one who must decide when to end the life of somebody they only want to love and protect forever. ~ Alf vom Garreler Esch – 19 April 2000 to 17 January 2011
… and …
As I’ve gone through the grieving process myself, and watched others do the same, it has become clear to me that, in the end, the power and joy of a life well lived is not diminished by the final footnote that it came to an end. That grief is a path leading to a place where, without trivializing our loss or assuming a pretense that the one departed isn’t missed, we can once again think and speak of them fondly and often, without spontaneously melting into a weeping puddle of goo. That their lives will have meaning as long as those of us who remember still draw breath. ~ Die My Dear? Why That’s the Last Thing I’ll Do
Dark bastard that I am, I encapsulated all this in a poem where one is called upon to do the right thing without anything more than strength of character, moral fortitude, and worthiness of trust. More than a few tears were shed, I can assure you. Today I present …
My Love
By LFM
I took my Love out to the woods
In autumn’s fair display.
Our spirits soared the while we walked.
It was a perfect day.
Many years had passed between
Us two, my Love and me.
There never was a one like her,
Nor such a two as we.
We came into a quiet grove
Beside a granite stone,
And there we lingered, she and I,
Just both of us, alone.
I stroked her coat and fed her things
Her age had long denied.
Joys I knew would never harm
The health of one who’s died.
No happier a Dog than she
Existed in the land
The moment when I reached behind
And took my gun in hand.
A toy came from my pocket then,
Her eyes lit up with play.
My finger touched the trigger and
I sent my Love away.
My Love, she gave her life to me
And it was hers to give.
Now in my mind and in my heart
My Love will always live.
Beautiful, sorrowful, painful, and hopeful, all at once.
Thank you my Love.
The times I have had to go through this–those days are burned forever in the records of my life’s journey. Your poem reminded me of the day we had to put Butch down. I gave him chocolate pudding which made him happy. I will never eat chocolate pudding again though. We swore that another dog would not be in our lives, for a very long time. After seven months, I pulled into the animal shelter that I passed every week, on the way to one of my classes. There, in the last cage was this white and black puppy who really looked ready to get out of prison. Pam didn’t even try to convince me otherwise, and within a week or so, Bodhi had a new home.
This living with dogs business is so good for the soul, but that inevitable responsiblility is a bastard isn’t it?
A good Woman and a good Dog will get you through anything Gary. A tip of the hat to Pam. That good Woman has a good Man. And as to Bodhi … you didn’t find him by accident. Nor us for that matter.
No accident at all, Randy.
True love is kind , not selfish.When the shell of mortal bounds of those in your care could bare no more you both have always shown true love.
That is how I wish every dog would be loved. Baywolf and Davie are very close to me right now.
Thank you Silvia.
I have to tell you that this poem made me cry. I no longer live with dogs for an array of reasons, but I am not devoid of empathy. What a sad but brave thing you did. I wish that when my end came close I'd have as good a friend to help me onward.
Peace.
Wow.. That is very moving. Miss my dog every day.
Thank you Gentlemen.